the post below just reminds me of a previous conversation between me and "her", the second part is interesting:
me:
why you always give money to the "beggars" even you know that a lot of them are swindlers?
her:
if i don't, i might refuse to help a person who is actually in need and, as for a swindler, if somebody doesn't see him as a swindler and gives money to him, he might change, the way you see a person will have a direct impact on what that person is ....
then she gave me some examples of how changing view points could lead to totally different "realities" to her. my understanding of her "philosophy" is like this: the external world is not isolated and dissociated with her internal beings, but is "created" by her, therefore, everyone's "reality" is closely connected with her/his own viewpoints of the outside world and other people
she is my wife and i need some time to comprehend her idealism ......